The "hottest" sex positions
are the best sex positions and allow both you and your partner to
experience the greatest pleasure and come to an orgasm. Seems obvious,
right? But it’s amazing how many otherwise intelligent people totally
miss this point.
Men are often guilty of wanting to
perform the kind of athletic, acrobatic, frequently-changing "sex
position" style of intercourse they see in their favorite porn thinking
that a woman will be impressed by their stamina and creativity, while
women are often guilty of going along with what the guy wants in hopes
that he’s taken their pleasure into account as well.
Hot Sex Positions vs. The Wrong Sex Positions
Unfortunately this doesn’t usually
happen. Some men are totally clueless and think only of how to get to
their own orgasm as quickly as possible, while others want to please
their partners but erroneously think this means “performing well” by
keeping their erection going as long as possible.
Neither works well because both have
forgotten the golden key to great sex – and that’s great communication.
And I’m not only going to lay the blame at men’s feet here, many women
are still too shy and inhibited to speak up and tell the guy exactly
what they need in order to feel pleasure and reach an orgasm during
intercourse, often because they don’t really know.
With this in mind let’s take a look at
the top three sex positions and look at how they can bring a woman
greater pleasure. Men if you find that it’s difficult to keep your
erection while bringing a woman to orgasm first (`cause unless you’re
into tantric sex and know how to orgasm without ejaculating you’re not
going to bring her to an orgasm via intercourse after you had one) than
try bringing her close to an orgasm with your hand or orally first
before beginning intercourse.
`Woman on Top` Sex Position
If you read men’s magazines the favorite
positions in polls (including for women) is “doggy style,” while in
women’s magazine both men and women’s favorite position is “woman on
top.” Since a large majority (60-85% depending on which poll you read)
of women don’t orgasm from plain old intercourse alone I’m going to put
the position that puts women in charge of what goes on first…and ladies
you definitely need to step up to bat and learn how to be in the
driver’s seat for this one.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
Some women don’t like to be “on top”
because they feel the man gets to be too lazy and only has to lay back
and watch the show. You can remedy this by having the man sit up
against pillows so that it’s far easier to kiss and the woman can feel
more engaged with the man. The woman really does need to set the pace
with this position since she’s the one with the greatest range of
motion possible. If she needs greater clitoral stimulation than this
position normally gives her she should arch forward and do more of a
grinding motion that thrusting so that her clitoris will be rubbing up
against the man pubic bone. If she needs even more stimulation she
should be brave and use her own fingers to stimulate herself while
finding a rhythm that works for you both. The man can add even greater
stimulation by caressing the sensitive undersides of her buttocks, or
stroking her back door (make sure she’s well lubricated) or even
inserting a finger into her anus (but ask permission first).
`Doggy Style` Sex Position
Men love this position because, well,
it’s easy as pie and it allows us to gaze at a woman’s sexual plumbing.
For many women it’s a favorite position because it can be great for
“G-spot” stimulation, however, for many women men can thrust too deep
and actually hit a woman’s cervix, which some women enjoy, but many
find extremely painful.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
The key to successful “doggy style”
intercourse again is communication. Just as the head of a man’s penis
is the most sensitive, the first third of a woman’s vagina is the most
sensitive and the “G-spot” isn’t down deep at the back, it’s on the
front wall about a third of the way down (though it varies woman to
woman) so you need to communicate with your lover to find the right
thrust that works for her.
Also, the “G-spot” often needs a lot of
stimulation before it “wakes up” so you need to either go down on a
woman first orally and make sure she’s either had an orgasm already, or
is pretty darn close, or you need to reach your hand around and give
her plenty of clitoral stimulation at the same time to make sure she’s
enjoying things the way you are.
The problem man and women have with
“doggy style” is that it feels very impersonal. To make her feel more
connected try a couple variations on the theme such as rear entry while
you’re both on your knees, or standing, in front of a mirror so that
there’s plenty of eye contact and you both get the visual stimulation
of seeing exactly what’s going on – and guys don’t be lazy, unless a
woman tells you otherwise, reach your hand around and give her clitoris
the stimulation it needs.
`Missionary Style` Sex Position
Yes, the old standard is still a favorite
for many couples because it’s one of the most intimate, but again this
position only works for both parties with good communication.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
The CAT or coitus alignment technique is
a way to make sure you’re lined up to give her clitoris the stimulation
it needs to get its groove on. To get into position the man slides
forward from his normal resting place so that the woman’s clitoris is
receiving stimulation from the base of the man’s penis, also his legs
should rest on the outside of her legs instead of the inside. Then
rather than using a thrusting motion like you’d normally engage in the
woman initiate a more gentle rocking motion, making sure her clitoris
is getting the stimulation and contact it needs. The man should push
down gently counter resisting the woman’s upward motion.
